The 5 Truths About Chemistry Between Two People

But there are some core truths about chemistry that can help us understand these strong emotions that we are feeling and how we can learn and grow from these feelings. Here, five truths about chemistry to help you navigate your intense feelings:

I often hear people talk about chemistry as if it's a bad thing. Like we should be wary of the people we're attracted to the most. And I understand why this is a common warning: because these people tend to bring our issues to the surface. Not to mention, a sudden rush of intense emotions can just be scary in general.

This doesn't mean that we stick around in relationships that feel horrible to be in. But it does mean we recognize that love will provoke us to grow into fuller versions of ourselves. And this isn't easy!

When we remember that relationships are meant to teach us growth, we approach the "bad" very differently. Acknowledge these feelings, understand why you are feeling them, and understand that the emotions are fundamentally normal.

These can still teach you valuable lessons about love, other people, and yourself. Perhaps they'll show qualities that are essential in a partner that you never knew you valued before; perhaps they'll show you qualities in yourself that you never knew were there. Those are important lessons that help us grow and evolve on our own journeys. Just because the other person won't continue on the journey with you doesn't meant they weren't a valuable part of it for the moments that they were.

Sometimes reconnecting with love means sticking around and working through the challenges. Since chemistry can trigger intense emotions—some good, some bad—successfully working through this can result in a healthy, strong relationship. Eventually those feelings of out-of-control love will transform into something better: lasting love. You just have to put in the work to get there.

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