A Therapist On How To Tell People You're Getting Divorced

As if going through a divorce isn't difficult enough, you also have to factor in how you'll break the news to your friends and family. And with the holidays right around the corner, couples currently going through a divorce may indeed be having those conversations soon.

According to Page, the first thing you'll want to keep in mind is that divorce is no easy undertaking, and so you'll want to offer yourself compassion, dignity, and patience. Don't feel like you have to be tougher, or move on quicker, he says, and if that means you hold off on telling people right away, that is OK.

When you do feel ready to open up about your divorce, Page says, that doesn't mean you have to tell everyone. "Protect yourself from those people who will not respect your boundaries."

In some cases, he notes, you can send a brief text, email, or voicemail letting someone know you're getting divorced but aren't ready to talk about it just yet and ask them to respect your privacy.

And last but certainly not least, Page says this is a time when you'll want to be in the company of those who are the safest, the most nonjudgmental, and the most accepting. "Those folks are your gold," he says.

You're probably not going to want to go into much detail with everyone you tell about your divorce, so having a handful of trusted friends or family members to talk to can make all the difference.

Breaking the news of your divorce is not only difficult, but it can bring up a lot of emotions you're still actively processing. That said, Page notes, you'll likely end up with a deeper sense of the people in your life who you can really trust.