How To Actually Tell If A Girl Likes You, According To Relationship Experts

Here some solid signs that can indicate a woman's interest, and while no sign is a 100% guarantee, seeing enough of them can be taken as a sneaky but definite signal of reciprocal interest. 

If a girl is interested in you, according to relationship coach and sexologist, Suzannah Weiss, she will give you all her attention during a conversation. "She will turn towards you. Look at you. They won't bury themselves in their phone or a book, and they'll make eye contact with you," she explains.

As licensed marriage and family therapist Kim Homan, LMFT, tells mindbodygreen, "These subtle physical cues can be subconscious indications of comfort and attraction."

As psychologist Ketan Parmar, M.D., MBBS, adds, if a girl goes out of her way to find opportunities to be around you or invites you to events, that could also be a sign she likes you. “Pay attention to whether she prioritizes spending time with you over other commitments,” he adds.

"Texting is a huge part of any relationship (especially these days!)," says Kiana Reeves, somatic sex educator, pelvic care practitioner, certified doula, and chief brand officer at Foria. "If there's flirty banter, consistent back and forth, or if she texts you out-of-the-blue about something you once talked about, these are great signs of interest," she adds.

If a girl is interested in you, she will want to know what makes you tick. She'll show a genuine interest in your opinions, reactions, interactions, and the experiences that have shaped you. If she engages you in meaningful conversations, asks many open-ended questions, and thoughtfully responds to what you share, it indicates that she cares.

“People often try to impress those they are interested in by putting extra effort into their appearance. If a girl appears to go out of her way to look good when she knows she will be seeing you, it could be a sign of attraction,” Parmar explains.

"If she notices that you are feeling down or having a bad day, she will try to cheer you up or offer support. She may also go out of her way to do things for you, such as bringing you your favorite food or helping you with something,” Tong explains.

Teasing, especially of a flirtatious variety, can be a good sign of attraction. She might playfully poke fun at you and engage in lighthearted banter, all done in good spirits to forge a deeper bond.

When a girl blushes or seems nervous around you, especially in response to your compliments or any overt attention, it's often a sign of romantic interest. She may fidget if she is excited to be around you but also feels self-conscious. This typically happens in emotionally charged situations.

Generally, however, when a girl likes you, she may lean towards you, uncross her arms, smile frequently, and face you directly, signaling her comfort and interest. As Homan notes, "These subtle physical cues can be subconscious indications of comfort and attraction."

"If this person has told her friends about you, this can be another great sign of interest. Receiving an invite to hang out with someone's close group means they trust you and are comfortable bringing you into the fold," Reeves tells mindbodygreen.

“Another significant sign is her effort to be a part of your life. This could manifest in her remembering small details about your life,” says Homan, explaining that “when someone invests time and energy in knowing and understanding you, it often reflects a genuine interest beyond mere friendship.”

The curiosity has to go beyond mere politeness; someone interested in a deeper relationship will ask personal questions about your parents and siblings. She will inquire about and comment on your family dynamics, the personalities of your close friends, and family traditions. Furthermore, she will find a way to communicate her readiness to participate in family events.

If a girl likes you, she'll frequently compliment you, noticing and appreciating qualities others might overlook, reflecting the special attention she's paying you. The compliments will be deep and about more than just the surface qualities.

"Laughter is a universal love language. If a girl genuinely enjoys your company and finds you amusing, she will laugh even if your jokes aren't very good. Sometimes, it is their way of expressing their admiration and interest in you," says licensed marriage and family therapist, Raul Haro, LMFT.

Thoughtful gifts are special for similar reasons. It’s not just the gift of an item but a reflection of her regard for you. The more meaningful and personal it is, the deeper her appreciation for you. 

Smiling is a form of non-verbal communication that signals happiness, warmth, and attraction. Being in the company of someone we like naturally makes us happy, and this feeling intensifies when there's also a romantic interest and the anticipation of a more intimate relationship.

Furthermore, if she indulges in physical displays of affection, she is very comfortable with you, trusts you, and desires to create intimacy with you. 

Excessive jealousy is concerning, so be cautious if the object of your affection is veering towards an extreme form of this behavior. However, mild jealousy can stem from insecurity or fear of losing your affection to someone else and can be taken as a positive sign.

Sharing intimate details of our lives makes us vulnerable, and there is an inherent fear in that, but we brave this fear for those we deeply trust and desire to have in our lives. Also, if you can read the signs, this will not simply be a gesture of trust. The act will stem from a deep need for you to know her. 

Is it childish? Yes—but we are all fools in love. 

This could manifest in several ways—she remembers trivial details about you that others might find inconsequential, makes plans well in advance, shows an obvious preference for your company, seizes every excuse to be around you, and becomes noticeably more flirtatious and attentive when you're together. These behaviors suggest that you have a special place in her life. 

Her interest in your relationship status, subtly expressed or not, is telling. She will also find a way to ensure you know she’s single and open to a relationship. This behavior is not just about understanding your availability or communicating hers; it’s her way of opening the door to whatever is possible between you. 

To further clarify things, here are some signs that typically suggest a lack of interest. Combined with the list above, they can help you distinguish between romantic and platonic feelings.

Another sign can be canceling plans with little to no notice and a reluctance to reschedule.

"When a girl is uninterested, she may not reciprocate your efforts in conversation. This could manifest as not asking questions in return, not sharing much about herself, or changing the subject to avoid personal topics," says relationship expert Lachlan Brown.

Avoiding eye contact can indicate discomfort or lack of interest in fostering a deeper connection.

"If someone moves away from you or starts talking to someone else or goes on their phone, then I would say let them be," she says. 

If everything is going unreciprocated—from invitations to gestures of affection—it may be time to cut your losses.

If she talks about other men she finds attractive and openly and clearly states her interest in pursuing them, take that to mean you are firmly in the friend zone. "This is especially true if she seeks your dating advice or mentions her crushes to you," Haro adds.

This behavior can be particularly telling if she consistently makes excuses to avoid one-on-one situations or seems uncomfortable about spending time together in more intimate settings. Her reluctance to engage in solo activities with you can indicate her desire to maintain a purely platonic relationship.

If she never asks about your day, interests, or opinions, and/or disregards your feelings, that indicates a lack of emotional investment.

As Brown notes, “If she consciously keeps a physical distance or avoids situations where close contact might occur, it's likely a sign she's not comfortable with the idea of a closer relationship.”

If she is active on social media but never likes or comments on your posts but does engage with others, it could denote a lack of interest on her part.

No special treatment or preference for your company may suggest she sees you as a friend.

She may take the sledgehammer approach and let you know in explicit terms that she is not interested in anything other than a friendship. Now, unless you want to barrel right into harassment territory, it is time to back off. 

Whatever the result, adventures of the heart are worth the travel time, the angst of uncertainty, the thrill of the pursuit, and even the heartbreak of rejection.